We went to meet my cousin's new granddaughter, the utterly delicious Piper Grace, and spent a fabulous afternoon with her big sister, Orla (17 months). We had bubbles and water play and books to read. Orla is just captivating so of course Ma was very happy. She did get a bit confused at one point between the new baby and one of Orla's baby dolls but thoroughly enjoyed her day out.
I watched in amazement as Ma ate bbq'd spare ribs, chicken and sausages, salad and delicious home made wedges. Then strawberries and cream. If I'd tried to feed her that she would've had a hissy fit. Then there was the schoolboy error of wiping her face on the tablecloth mistaking it for her napkin, but we've all done that one. Er. Just me then?
Talking to Dave and Glen is really helpful because Dave's mum (Ma's sister Anne) has Alzheimer's and they have already been where I am now. So they totally understand the frustrations and difficulties of the day to day. This is very comforting. Not only do they understand and validate what I am doing but can give me some idea of how it will be in the future.
I mentioned to someone on Twitter this evening that it is the little annoyances which send you into meltdown.
My current annoyance is Ma's need to hold a tissue at all times. She doesn't blow her nose properly, simply dabs at it and sniffs. The tissue ends up like a handful of string, which she proceeds to bundle up and then... dab sniff dab sniff dab. Drives me to the brink of insanity.
Discussing this with Glen, she thought that maybe they (Ma, Aunt, other sufferers) simply forget how to blow their nose. A good point and another position on the learning curve. Must try harder!